Gymboree Pretty
How do I deal with my little girls best friend WHO is more wealthy and?
always seems to have the nicest clothes. They are both 6 but seem older,lol…my kids friends Shayla IS “prettier” than my kid Sabrina, so my kid always wants to look like her, whenever shayla comes over I cant help but notice the cute clothes she wears and they are name brand like gymboree (i was in there and could maybe afford socks there!) my kid gets zellers clothes and thats a treat..we are not well off at all. Live in an apartment unlike her friend who lives in a new neighborhood in a NICE house! ugh, its hard my kid wont shut up about shayla and doesnt seem so happy anymore cause she cant have it too..help!
Iam a single mom who makes min wage, so i dont think i wille ver get to that point for my kid though i would love to.
i just feel kind of like a failure..my life hasnt been easy and i make money to survive…but i will prolly never live in a new house and be able to go to disney world…something shayla is doing this summer, so my kid is realy bummed out..its fustrating.
Danielle -
I grew up in a very poor household – and there were plenty of “rich” kids around with much nicer stuff that I had.
Early on, my parents instilled in me and my sister that, even though we didn’t have a lot of nice things, we were loved, we had a roof over our heads and good food to eat. And, my parents got through life by working hard and being honest.
Even though I was aware that we were really poor, I didn’t feel poor. The lack of nice things in my life gave me a creativity and a thriftiness that has gotten me through life to this very day!
Sure, I sometimes felt jealous of the other kids, but that feeling didn’t last long. I think that growing up poor really helped me as an adult – I started working full-time, and have never quit.
It is very important that you present a strong and ethical face to your child. She probably understands that your life hasn’t been easy, but you should let her know that you love her and will always be there for her.
Don’t forget – even if you were at the point in life where you could provide those “nice” things for her, there will always be someone with nicer stuff! Can’t play keep-up with the Jonses!
You two are a team!
Now, go out there and raise your daughter to the best of your ability – it will be fine, and she will develop a great respect for you – and herself.
